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Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Divorce Shouldn't Make You Depressed...

I saw this post today over at The Huffington Post.

"Divorce shouldn't make you depressed; it's being unhappily married that does that." Sascha Rothchild.

True enough. I know I spend a lot of time here lamenting all the bull shit my X puts me through, and sharing my fears and my struggles. But I realize that these are things I have to deal with now - they aren't going to be my whole life. They aren't what defines me. I don't want anyone to think I regret my divorce, and I don't want anyone to think I'm not a happy person.

Honestly - I wouldn't change my decision to divorce him. Even with all the crap going on I'm still happier, healthier, and in general a truer, better version of myself now that I'm not married to him.

I'm stronger, and a lot wiser. I learned a lot during my marriage and divorce. I've learned what I want in a partner and what I'm not willing to compromise on. I'm better at communicating my needs and standing up for myself. I think, most importantly, I'm a better role model for my four children.

1 comment:

  1. AMEN!!! I went through a marriage of hell as well, not quite as serious as yours I might say, but all the mental and verbal abuse to last me a life time.

    I am now such a better person and a much better Mother, friend, girlfriend, daughter , sister...

    Love your blog!!