First I'm just going to sum up a long and frustrating week by saying that my child has several amazing teachers...and one very lazy, ridiculously ridged one. My middle child has severe ADD and needs a few modifications to enable her to be successful. She can't be expected to remember what she's supposed to do for all six classes when she gets home. She just doesn't retain instructions and multi-step processes at all. She needs written instructions, or a Syllabus for each class. She needs to be able to take notes in class, and I need the teachers to communicate with me if she's missing several assignments in a row. Four days before the end of the quarter I find out she's failing three of her six classes. Why? She does the work, but she doesn't remember what to turn in, and to whom (if she even remembers to take it back to school, it really is an issue we struggle with all the time.) They never once contact me until it's too late. SO... after lots of blame and finger pointing we are going forward with a 504 plan that will help give her some extra assistance.
Now to the possession part of this frustrating week. When my ex and I split we had several verbal agreements. In my opinion all of them became null and void when the asshole showed up at my door with a gun. Now he wants to sit back in his jail cell and pick and choose which of these agreements he wants to observe. For example we had owned a Maytag duet washer and dryer set, top of the line worth several thousand dollars. The "verbal agreement" was that the washer and dryer would go with the kids. Whomever had the kids, got the keep the washer and dryer. When negotiating the final divorce decree he demanded the return of the washer and dryer.... even though he was in prison, and once getting out of prison he would live with his mother, and the children will NEVER reside with him again. Okay, fine. Be an ass. I won't fight over stuff. I let him have them. I cleared out my savings account and bought a new washer and dryer even though I really couldn't afford it. I followed the letter of law and gave in to every one of his ridiculous demands just so that he would sign the divorce papers and I could get one with my life. Now, nine months later he wants me to return the X-Box 360. The children are under the impression that the video game system was bought FOR THEM. They have spent their own birthday money and allowance on games and accessories. I've spent my own money on things for the system. The kids use it every day because it's their video game system, DVD player, and access to Netflicks shows/movies on instant download. I'm not telling them they have to give it back to their dad... not gonna happen. The fact that the jerk-off even asked for it back shows he doesn't care about disappointing his kids. He's a total douche... UGH!!
So ya... possession being nine tenths of the law and all that means he can kiss my butt if he thinks I'm taking one more thing away from my kids. He bought it for them, or at least he told them he did... he's going to honor at least one promise he made whether he likes it or not.