tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6891053067224788017.post5753380469443289612..comments2023-04-07T06:43:34.243-07:00Comments on I Shaved My Legs For This?: Am I responsible for YOUR happiness?Little ol' Mehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14457226446961805837noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6891053067224788017.post-35625081737068544332010-08-25T13:02:51.543-07:002010-08-25T13:02:51.543-07:00I was gonna say it's maternal guilt and then y...I was gonna say it's maternal guilt and then you did! <br /><br />I also like what T said. However I'm one of those people who has a very generous spirit; I'm happy when I can make others happy but it's an easy way to lose yourself and get taken advantage of. Just make sure YOU are making you happy TOO!MindyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01103345017455083144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6891053067224788017.post-80046603277110390452010-08-25T11:40:10.017-07:002010-08-25T11:40:10.017-07:00I think T summed it up very nicely.
In the rooms ...I think T summed it up very nicely.<br /><br />In the rooms of Al Anon, there is one story I hear all too often. The story is told by a divorcee who stayed in a marriage "for the kids", in hopes of offering stability, keeping the family together until the kids were through school. Years down the road, this person explains to their adult children why they stayed married and the kids invariably ask "Why did you stay if you were so miserable?" Many times the kids admit that they were miserable & scared too.<br /><br />Kids are resilient. They bounce, like Tiggers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6891053067224788017.post-25343364638091648042010-08-25T10:54:06.441-07:002010-08-25T10:54:06.441-07:00T, very well saidT, very well saidG.G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00977287080748359320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6891053067224788017.post-7480149988012052932010-08-25T10:52:41.386-07:002010-08-25T10:52:41.386-07:00T, very well saidT, very well saidG.G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00977287080748359320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6891053067224788017.post-90708212998476527522010-08-25T10:01:26.179-07:002010-08-25T10:01:26.179-07:00They are responsible for their own happiness and t...They are responsible for their own happiness and the choices they make that affect them. Or the choices they make about whether or not something does affect them.<br /><br />You know you are responsible for your happiness. Period.<br /><br />But do the things that make you happy out of love for yourself.... not out of spite towards someone else. When you do this, you will naturally be more loving towards everyone else. Not because you HAVE to, but because it makes YOU feel good. <br /><br />Never feel guilty for loving you!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10112766306021310705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6891053067224788017.post-89244678791485041602010-08-25T09:05:13.225-07:002010-08-25T09:05:13.225-07:00I wish I knew the answer. I wouldn't say we a...I wish I knew the answer. I wouldn't say we are responsible for someone elses happiness but we are responsible for our actions and need to be aware of how those actions impact others. I saw a quote recently that was along the lines of this: everyone will hurt you. It is up to us to choose who is worth suffering for. I know I've mangled it but I'd take it a step forward and go on to say that we are part of the "everyone" that has the potential to hurt someone else and so we need to realize that. No you won't please everyone but I suppose it is important to find the most healthful balance. Be true to yourself but not trample on the relationships with those you love. <br /><br />Ugh. Need coffee. Lol. I think you have to remind yourself that the X is not with your kids because of his actions.G.G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00977287080748359320noreply@blogger.com